the sort of pain that goes mercifully beyond our powers of feeling.
when your heart is broken, your boats are burned: nothing matters any more.
it is the end of happiness and the beginning of peace.'
-george bernard shaw
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so i thought i was done with blogging for awhile,
but then adrian died.
adrian is one of the guys that lived at 'alpha house'.
alpha is part of the harbor community that i'm apart of in houston.
the house is run by my friends josh & aimee who have two beautiful daughters, shaun and rebecca.
over the past years they have worked with men that are recovering from drug addictions.
they have given them a place to stay with low rent pay, a safe place to get healthy again, and a family that loves and hopes for them.
they are very, very brave.
after hurricane ike there was some damage done to the apartments that these men have lived in.
adrian was the last guy living there and he had moved into the house during the construction to fix the apartments.
on april 18th, after a morning of running errands in a thunderstorm, josh, aimee, and their daughters came home to find adrian slumped over in his room.
he had overdosed on heroine.
apparently he had been clean for about a year until a month ago when he has used again.
aimee is somewhere around 6 months pregnant and was the one to help do CPR on adrian.
the other house connected with harbor is right down the street.
it's the house where jim, betty, jovon and ryan live and were called over to the house when adrian was found.
they were able to help get the little girls out of the house and help josh and aimee as they go adrian's heart beating again.
one week later adrian was buried after having several of his organs donated to transplant patients.
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i didn't know adrian very well.
he was super shy and i am super not.
i wish i had known him better.
he was 23 years old.
i also don't know the kind of pain that adrian lived with.
as far as anyone can tell, he hadn't meant to hurt himself.
i do know the kind of pain that all of us are dealing with in 'the after'.
i see it on josh and aimee's faces.
i hear it in our community as we try to figure out where to go from here.
adrian is the only death in 10 years of working with people recovering from drug addictions.
his death changes things though.
it brings out things in each of us.
makes us ask some questions.
makes us look at ourselves a little differently.
in the end, i hope that adrian knew peace.
i hope that eventually we will all heal,
and that we may too know peace.
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i'm not sure if this means i'll keep blogging,
or if it's just gotten me wanting to talk again.
i'm still a happy little girl,
but i felt the need to remember adrian.
that's why i made the video above.
i don't have any pictures of him,
but i have pictures of the harbor children.
one of the reasons i love community is because of the children.
most of them will never know what a 'big church' is like.
what it's like to sit in pews,
or be put into a bunch of church programming.
i like having them around.
i like when they see all of us together working on the alpha house construction.
i like how all of us get to help raise the children together.
so i made the video for the kids and to remember adrian.
i got to spend time with laura drane and her husband mark...
and then also ben edson, his wife ruth & their kids jude and lily.
i also got to see their community, sanctus1, in action.
from the moment i walked in the door i was set to work helping them set up for their advent art installation-'GIFT'.
sanctus1 meet in a cafe called nexus which is in the basement of the methodist church block in the center of manchester.
also sharing their back office space in a network called 'SPEAK' which works on getting out information on the injustices of the world.
so you've got sanctus, great art installations, fighting injustices, and great coffee all in one spot.
oh, and some of the 'leadership team' at sanctus are paid by BOTH the methodist & the anglican church.
so if i had to pick a word for manchester, i would pick:
CONNECTED.
it's not like in the states where each church and denomination is fighting the others down the street for fear of their lives.
no, in manchester (and around a lot of the UK) the church just wants to survive and is happy to let the other denominations do the things they do best...
let the baptists do their baptisms well,
let the anglicans do their liturgy well, etc.
sanctus1 was cool.
we had some great intellectual conversations and they do some kickass alt. worship...
but i was reassured that ben (one of the leadership team) is only artsy by association.
that made me feel a bit better.
i also got to stay in 'laura drane's castle'!
(it's really an old cathedral that's been renovated into 25 different flats)
it's beautiful and a really great space-i guess when you've got old cathedrals on every block it's easy to find new uses for them.
sanctus was a great way to end this trip.
it got my creative/spiritual/questioning juices flowing again.
now i've got about 5 days left and i head back to texas.
i'm excited, but it will be sad to leave this time and space.
it'll take a long time to unpack everything...
literally and figuratively,
but for those that have read throughout the trip-
thanks.
i'm gonna be glad to get home and tell all these stories.
my friends jonny baker and jon birch over at proost proost (the fellas that published the 'book of blessings' from the wellspring community) have been cooking up a project for advent for a while which is now available...
inspired by the grace community and their service nine over the last few years, they commissioned nine artists to interpret nine different pieces of the christmas story.
all the pieces have been created in response to one of the traditional nine readings from the nine lessons and carols christmas service.
there are 6 movies and 3 tracks.
the items are not available individually - they wanted to keep this as a set.
i think it's a great idea for communities interested in doing something different and creative for advent and the christmas season.
the whole compilation is available for NINE pounds...
which is like $13 or something, depending on how the dollar is doing on any given day :)
YOURS TRULY is on the 5th track with the one and only mr. jon birch...
it's a blessing based on mary & the angel that visits her and the verses luke 1: 26–35; 38.